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Wendy Scott's avatar

Great post. It’s a miracle that any of us are in relationships at all, given all the bullsh*t social programming we’ve been subjected to.

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Derek MacDonald's avatar

Right?? May we all find relationships that make us feel seen for the crazy whackadoos we are. Thanks for reading!

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Bryant Duhon's avatar

Good stuff and all that, but also, gotta say, you two make a lovely couple.

Just over 6 months into what's become a serious relationship myself. I've always been a "soft boy" but a real one at least. Oddly enough, I think that's one of the reasons for both marriages ending - they both wanted someone more "manly."

Anyway, congrats to both of us for maybe getting out of our own way enough to be present enough to have potentially stupendously great relationships. I continue to be grateful that after all the bullshit men put women through, many of them are still willing to date us.

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Kelly Morris's avatar

Great post, Derek.

This hit me: "The real problem is making someone else responsible for your emotional wellbeing without their consent." I agree with Wendy's comment. It is a miracle.

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