Great article, Derek. I can relate to reading the room and sensing the emotional storm as it arrives. Not necessarily from a childhood like you describe, but from a marriage that was equally violent. What I envy about men, is their strength and, what I see as the ability to stand up like that. At best, I’m able to remove myself. I wonder if I would be brave enough to physically intervene like that player in the locker room . Food for thought. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing your story. It’s beautiful.
I’m always conflicted when people relate to hard moments like this. On the one hand, it’s validating…there’s a sort of camaraderie. And on the other, it’s a certain kind of sorrowful. Like, I wish you couldn’t relate. But since you do, I’m glad to be here with you. I hope that makes at least a little bit of sense! And for what it’s worth, what I heard you describe *was* brave, not aspirational. Bravery, to me, looks like knowing something is hard or scary, and choosing to act anyway. Removing yourself sounds like an act of bravery.
Great article, Derek. I can relate to reading the room and sensing the emotional storm as it arrives. Not necessarily from a childhood like you describe, but from a marriage that was equally violent. What I envy about men, is their strength and, what I see as the ability to stand up like that. At best, I’m able to remove myself. I wonder if I would be brave enough to physically intervene like that player in the locker room . Food for thought. Thanks for your vulnerability and sharing your story. It’s beautiful.
I’m always conflicted when people relate to hard moments like this. On the one hand, it’s validating…there’s a sort of camaraderie. And on the other, it’s a certain kind of sorrowful. Like, I wish you couldn’t relate. But since you do, I’m glad to be here with you. I hope that makes at least a little bit of sense! And for what it’s worth, what I heard you describe *was* brave, not aspirational. Bravery, to me, looks like knowing something is hard or scary, and choosing to act anyway. Removing yourself sounds like an act of bravery.